Why We’re Not as Hardwired as We Think: All Think is Groupthink

To survive, reproduce, and flourish, species have to develop ecological adaptations to their environment. Humans have mastered the art of living in every possible climate and landscape on earth—provided we’re in groups. Our natural environment, the one we’ve evolved special adaptations to, is the presence of other humans. Since humans and chimpanzees split from a…

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How to Stop Repeating Patterns in Relationships (part 1)

You’ve seen things, dammit—you’re not an isolated loner. You’ve studied self-help books. You have friends. You’ve taken a good look at your past, and have learned a lot from life. But there’s a problem if “the street” and our gut are the only sources of our education. The people who ‘learn by experience’ often make…

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How to get over a breakup

Why does getting dumped hurt so much? First, it’s an obvious blow to the self-esteem. If we assume that we’re always going to be accepted by others, we see no need to edit ourselves, and can just be… ourselves. There’s a reciprocal relationship between our self-evaluations, how we present ourselves, and how well others like…

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Date a hottie

Do you want to date someone who’s a little bit cuter? Someone who seems out of your league? Allow me to take all the fun mystery out of dating.

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The people that matter

In my experience there is little correlation between people who are public, or people who are loud, and people who are knowledgeable. There are some very knowledgeable people who are public and loud. I follow them. I read their stuff. But there are a far greater number of people who are equally (and often more)…

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