Here are some of my favorite resources to heal, live well, relate, create, learn, and expand your worldview.



Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Matthew Walker

Food Rules: An Eater's Manual by Michael Pollan

How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self by Dr. Nicole LePera

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chödrön - I've lost count of how many times I've given this book out. Full of things I want to say to other people, like “The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently,” and “The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”

⭐ The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk

Twelve Steps of Adult Children Steps Workbook - Are you turned off by the idea of "adult children"? I get it. Someone once described this as "a step-by-step guide on how to get over having a less-than-perfect upbringing."

⭐ Recovery―The Sacred Art: The Twelve Steps as Spiritual Practice by Rami Shapiro


How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love by Logan Ury


"Building Loving and Lasting Relationships" is a popular class at Northwestern (also known as Marriage 101). I've read lots of the books that have appeared in the syllabus over the years, and if I could only choose one:

⭐ Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want by Alexandra H. Solomon PhD and Mona D. Fishbane PhD

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Fiction and narrative = more empathy and better social skills. When you allow yourself to be emotionally transported to another narrative, you strengthen your ability to relate to others (especially people who aren't like you), appreciate different perspectives, and see the world through the eyes of others. It's like cross-training for relationships and being a better human— and what could be more important during the past 18+ months, since everyone's social interactions have been lacking during the pandemic?

Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood by Trevor Noah - HOLY FUCKING SHIT. Trevor Noah has to be one of the most resilient people on earth, in addition to being an amazing writer and human being.

The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov

The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt

Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace